HOW TO KNOW WHEN TO WALK OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP

Relationships, even though you'd never want them to, may actually go awry. In fact, from being just bad they may become rotten or complicated or unhealthy or even worse, abusive! A bad relationship, no matter how prolonged it is, does no good to any of the partners. Because, ultimately what matters in life is quality and not just quantity!

And when you are in an unhealthy relationship, it's time that you call it quits before it turns abusive.

Here are the signs of an unhealthy relationship. Read and compare your relationship (with fingers crossed) to find out if it is time to part ways:

WHEN IT BECOMES IMPOSSIBLE TO COMMUNICATE

Communication is the life blood of any relationship. As long as you can openly and freely communicate, problems are bound to stay at bay. But when you or your partner feel that it has become nearly impossible to convey your thoughts and feelings to each other, then it is time to pause and think.

The good part, though, is that communication issues can be actually resolved by confronting each other. If you attempt to, it may actually start working again!

INTIMACY…WHAT'S THAT? 

It is true that as a relationship matures, the coochy-coo vanishes but intimacy is more than that. It could be a simple holding of hands, a hug or a flower given as a gift for no reason. When you find yourself saying “earlier when this would happen, you would do this...” at a lot of instances, please understand that something g is going wrong! The magic mantra to get out of it is again talking to your partner.

YOU FEEL YOU HAVE BEEN TAKEN FOR GRANTED

Nothing kills more than a sad love life and the feeling of being taken for granted, is just a part of it. If your partner pays no attention towards your feelings but falls on you for everything, you need to tell him that it is a two-way thing that he is into and not a self-comforting therapy.

WHEN THERE IS PHYSICAL ABUSE

There is absolutely no reason to stay with somebody who is violent. If the person cannot respect you so much so as to protect you from any physical harm, rather he is the one harming you, then he is certainly not worth your love. In fact, instances of physical abuse must be reported as criminal offence to the designated authorities despite all odds

WHEN IT'S ONLY FRUSTRATION AND DEPRESSION THAT FILL UP YOUR WORLD.

So you thought that today, no matter what, we'll not fight. And yet again you see that the two of you are in a heated argument, and you are walking back home with all the sadness, frustration and depression that you had vowed that you'll leave behind has again cropped up around you, it is time that you should let go of it. Give yourself some space, some time and some life. Walk out of the sadness and shine.

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MAKE A GUY GET COMMITED TO YOU

Are you trying to make him commit to you? Do you find it difficult to find guys who are willing to commit? Do guys seem to make any excuse in order to avoid commitment? If you want to be able to make guys commit then you need to learn about some quite simple tips. These tips are easy to use and will help to make him commit to you.

There are several things that you must do to make him crazy about you, you need to first make sure that you don't appear as being too desperate. You should spend some time apart from him and make sure that he stays excited about you. You also need to make sure that you concentrate on making your times wonderful.

If you spend time doing this then you should be able to make him commit to you fairly easily. Although some guys appear to be scared to commit to a guys this is only because they are cautious. Guys aren't afraid of commitment but they don't see a reason to commit which is why you need to give him a good enough reason. If you give him some space then he will realize how good you are to him.

You do need to make sure that you don't play too hard to get. When the guy calls you to set up a date you should make him excited about it. You should also be excited yourself. You just need to make sure that you're not going over the top. This will make sure that he knows you are interested in him but not too scary.

You also need to give him a reason and show him exactly what he is missing when you're not with him. Make sure that any time you spend together is really exciting and that you can give him lots of attention. This will make the times he spends with you extra special. This will make him want to see you time and time again.

If you spend too much time with him and are available whenever he wants then he might start taking you for granted. If you want to make him commit to you then you should try all of these tips.

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HOW TO GET A GIRL FRIEND AND KEEP HER FOR YOURSELF

Have you thought of how to get a girl friend and keep her so that she becomes yours as you have ever desired? There are many ways in how to get a girlfriend and keep her in no more cost. And most of them have to do with a lot of stupid tricks and other stuffs that just plain do not work. What I am going to show you in this write up are a few good solid tactics to getting a girlfriend who you feel is worthy of you and you will love her as you wish you could.

Many guys end up just settling for a girl. They find someone who is needy or takes advantages of them and they think that this is the best they can do. In reality what they have done is accepted something that will not work out. In the end either you or the girl, will leave the relationship. It just will not work for the long-term or work as you have ever wanted it to be. So in a nutshell, do your best not to settle.

So you may then ask, "how do I get a girlfriend that is worthy of me?" And I will ask you, "What do you envision to be a worthy girlfriend?" It sound strange, but this is where you need to start. You have to first visualize what you feel is worthy. Does she have to be beautiful? Does she have to be smart? What kind of job should she have? I want you to make a list and define who you think is worthy of you. Stay away from things like money or branded clothing. Below is an example of the list I would make if I was trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend.

1) She needs to be pretty.

2) She needs to be caring.

3) She needs to be family oriented.

4) She needs to have a respectable job (No strippers, etc.)

5) She needs to believe in long term commitments.

I want you to start your list and make it bigger than this one above. All I did was create a starting point for you. I want you to visualize this girl as you write your own list.

How to get a girlfriend inside your own head is the easy part. You have probably done this already a number of times, but never wrote it down. Now it is time to work on you. You need to work on your confidence and to do this you need to tell yourself that you are worthy of finding a person exactly as you described. If you have problem walking up to a girl and talking to her, then this confidence building exercise is going to help you. Beautiful girls only respond to a confident guy.

Look at yourself in the mirror and concentrate on your face. Look for all the good traits and focus on those. Work on keeping your shoulders relaxed. You can do this by reaching your fingers to the ground. This will lower your shoulders and train you to walk with them relaxed.

Next I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Look at your eyebrows and your eyes. Now stop smiling and keep your eyes and eyebrows somewhat the same. Learn to keep your face like this, when you walk into a room or see a girl for the first time, you will be smiling with your eyes. This is a big turn on for girls. A relaxed walking style is also important. Put them together and you have a winning first impression.

Now you know how to get a girlfriend. You need to practice these things before trying them out in real life. You are going to be surprised at the changes you will see in yourself and also in the kind of girls you attract.

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HOW TO TELL WHEN YOUR FRIEND IS LYING TO YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP

Ever wonder if a person is telling you a lie when in a normal state or in a relationship? There are clues which can tell you that a person is being less than truthful to you and there are methods you can use to get at the truth or manipulate the situation.

How To Spot if he or she is lying to you:

1. No eye contact. His eyes will look away. If the room has a means of egress - that's where they'll look.

 
2. Crossing of arms and/or legs (a protective instinct).

 
3. The pupils of the eyes will narrow. Lying is stressful.

 
4. Hands on the face, especially the mouth. They are "covering" the lie.
 

5. Talking fast. A liar wants to get it over with.
 

6. Sometimes the head will nod a "no" when answering a "yes" question or visa versa. This is a subconscious movement.
 

7. Mispronouncing the words or mumbling. A liar kind of thinks he is not lying when he pronounces words incorrectly or mumbles.
 

8. Overstated friendliness/laughing. He wants you to believe and he wants you to like him so you will believe him.

How Not To Be Lied To:

 

1. Sit in the higher chair. A subtle sort of intimidation.
 

2. Uncross your legs and open your arms - lean back. Make yourself "open" to the truth.
3. Ask for minute details (a challenge to the liar).
 

4. Don't ever tell them what you DO know - don't point out you know what they are saying is a lie. This is your own ego trip.
 

 5. Invade their personal space. Get close, they'll get uncomfortable (good).
 

6. Mimic their posture and movements..be subtle. This establishes a rapport and they'll never figure out why.
 

7. Speak in their style. Listen to how they think. If the person says things like "I HEAR ya!" or "that SOUNDS good", you'll know he thinks auditorially or with his ears. If he says "I shoulda SEEN it comin" or "I SEE what you mean", you'll know he is visually oriented. If he says things like "it HIT me like a tons of bricks" or "I just FROZE in my tracks", you'll know he thinks by feelings. Speak to him the same way. A good test is to ask someone to recite the alphabet. Some people will stare as if they are looking at the alphabet above the blackboard in grade school (visual), some people will sing the alphabet (auditory) and some people will taps out the letters (feeling). If you match their thinking method, you'll have instant rapport.
 

8. Give 'em an "out". You gotta make it easy for them to to tell the truth. Pretend you didn't hear them correctly or tell them you didn't understand what they said. Always leave a way out so they recant their words and tell the truth.
 

9. Stay calm. Never show surprise or shock. Treat everything they say with the same importance. The first time you react negatively you will lose any chance of being told the truth.

Hope these few steps can help in one way or the other for you to know when some is lying to you weather in relationship or not

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5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO UR GUY

• “You look old” or “you've grown fuller” or “your outfit doesn't really fit into the whole setup” - we all know that these are a few of the many things that you don't say to a woman-EVER!

But did you ever think that there might be a few phrases that you shouldn't say to a man? If no, then this is a wake-up call!

Although you might have used these innocently, but you may fail to realise that these seemingly nice and innocent phrases of concern may actually be the ones that leave a real long lasting impression on his mind and a deep scar on his ego, if used over and over again.
Here are the 5 things that you should never say to your man!

• “I DON'T THINK WE CAN AFFORD. LEAVE IT.”

Men like to be thought of as reliable creatures. A man needs to feel that his partner feels secure in his presence: physically, emotionally (yes, men too think of emotional stability and that too for you) but most importantly, financially. Also, most men are spenders by nature.
They like to splurge every once in a while even when their pocket is a little small.
You may have said this to him out of your concern to save up for a rainy day, but if you say so more than often, you may actually be destroying his faith in himself. Not just this, doing so may make him believe that you don't have a belief in him and that will eventually destroy his belief in you.

“YOU SHOULD LEARN A LESSON FROM HIM (YOUR FRIEND)!”

Never ever ever say this to your man! Men hate being compared to other men and if you think that by enlisting a few good qualities of someone else, you can make him learn something, then just pick this thought form your mind and throw it in the farthest dustbin!
And God forbid if you ever dare to refer to his friend when you say “him”, then you will actually ruin his day along with his mood! Accept it for a fact that men can't let behavioural comparison pass through their big fat egos, so just let this thought pass every time it arises inside you.

“I PROMISED HIM/HER THAT I WOULDN'T LET THIS OUT BUT I AM TELLING YOU, OKAY?”

Here you may actually be trying to show him that you trust him so much so that you are ready to forget all promises that you've made to your friends but when you start a sentence in this manner, it makes it look like a piece of gossip, no matter how serious it may be.
Also, eventually it might make him believe that you are not a trustworthy person because you can't keep any secrets with you and he might just think of you as a bad friend.
So whenever you have something of such sort to tell him, make sure you find a better way of saying it, like, “I know I can share this with you because I know that you'll maintain the secrecy of this issue”. This makes him know that you care about your friend's feelings and also that you trust him enough to make him a part of the whole thing and not just an outlet for channelising your gossip-flow.

“ARE YOU INSANE? THIS IS STUPID! WE SHOULDN'T DO THIS!”

Guys like to have fun and go wild and do adventurous stuff every now and then. And if he thinks that you can be a part of it, then you should actually be happy about it instead of snapping at him.
Of course there might be things that make no sense at all. For instance, if he says that let's go out and make out in the park, then you ought to give him a reality check but if he wants to talk you into something thrilling (something that is safe enough and certainly not illegal) then you should at least support him if you can't gather the courage to give it a try. But if you do decide to give it a shot with him then you'll see how strong your bond gets.

Just know the things you should say and you should not say when you see yourself in a serious relationship to avoid unexpected break up...Hear am!

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